Kindnesses Shared and Received

We love our ceramic menorah that we unwrap each December and fill with colorful candles each evening during Hanukkah. As the Shamash candle is lit, we begin singing the blessing in our own multi-tuned rendition. My husband wasn’t schooled in religious tunes, or if he was didn’t retain them. And my religious tunes are limited to Herald Angels and Little Towns. Consequently, our prayer sounds much like a smaller rendition of Hogwarts school song.

Each of the 8 nights we add an additional candle, sing our prayer and enjoy the menorah for a moment or through dinner or while homework is being done. We love to watch the candle lights flickering and speculate where all that wax ends up. But we rarely focus long on the Maccabees or the blessings we remember in our own lives.

This year I thought we could think about what brings light into our lives and how we reflect that light. Each day of Hanukkah, we will each be observant for kindnesses we share and kindnesses we receive. Then when we light the candles we will each share a kindness from that day for each candle lit—one kindness each on the first night, two the second night and so forth. I imagine that this will be fairly straightforward on day one. However, I presume that by day 4 or 5 we will have to work to not just remember what we have done that day (for some of us a harder task these days than for others), but we will need actively be observant for moments when we can offer a kindness— from a word, to a hand, to a hug. I am sure it will take concentration to look for opportunities. Perhaps we will hold open a door or let the shopper with just one item to purchase step in line in front of us, or even refrain from a disparaging remark that was clamoring to be spoken. Eight is such a good number for creating a habit of being observant to where we can give a kindness and be mindful of saying thank you when we receive a kindness.

Stay tuned and I’ll let you know how well this works or doesn’t. Let me know what traditions you enjoy in December to show thanks for what you have received or be cognizant of what you share.

Let the Great World Spin Book Group Discussion Guide

Let The Great World Spin Discussion Guide
By Colum McCann

I enjoy leading book groups. When I lead, I write up a discussion guide to use. Feel free to ask your own questions or discuss your own observations or reactions in the comments section.

I have moved this discussion guide to my new blog, Group Reads which is a collection of discussion guides.  You can find a guide for this book at Group Reads: Let The Great World Spin.

Stop by and see what other guides might interest you!

You Can Hide, but You Can't Run

Thanksgiving Day came and went with surprising little, family discord.  So here I am relying on my faux pas over the last 2 days to sum up lessons learned while I was being thankful for those moments outside the all important thanks for family, freedom, peace, education and nourishment.

If I wash and dry my daughter's sweatshirt with her iPod in the pocket, the iPod will still work but all of the lyrics come out clean.  I am thankful that some Apple engineer probably engineered this to work even if it's not advertised.

$2 hand warmers cost $3 when 10,000 cold people are waiting around before the Thanksgiving 5K race, unless you are the first customer.

iPods were made for the day after Thanksgiving:
  • You don’t need to listen to non-stop ads pushing Black Friday deals
  • They are perfect for taking on a walk to burn off the Thanksgiving Feast
  • Even if it’s raining you can plug in your ear buds and tune out any lingering family acrimony

Salt not only makes bread taste good, it also helps the rising. Corollary, four loaves of unsalted bread makes a lot of unsalted breadcrumbs.

Apple butter is a misnomer— it's really apple jelly. And it makes unsalted bread tasty!  I am thankful for my niece's thoughtfulness in creating a fabulous gift basket just because.

In laser tag, you can hide, but you can't run.

Guidelines for Easy to Understand Technical Writing

Where did techies learn to write?! I like mysteries to have twists and surprises; I like novels to develop character and place; I like biographies to delve into history (actually I don’t like biographies). But I don’t want technical analysis or product descriptions to meander, use vague, ill-defined terms or stick to generalities. Tech blogs and articles need to get to the point.

There are plenty of bad examples out there from a myriad of independent blogs to some of the comments posted to widely read blogs. Rather than focus on the bad examples I come across daily doing research, here are two of my favorite good examples of technical writing:

David Pogue in nearly any of his blog posts http://pogue.blogs.nytimes.com/ lists what he does and doesn’t like in clear terms. He even wrote a whole post on tech terms he avoids (http://pogue.blogs.nytimes.com/2008/10/16/tech-terms-to-avoid/#more-560 ) .

Wired Magazine, http://www.wired.com/wired/ , consistently publishes clear articles. Not only do they use understandable prose, they have outstanding graphic artists who create charts and diagrams that intrigue anyone who loves visualizing data.

Granted Pogue and the Wired Magazine writers are paid to write, so they have an economic interest in writing well and have had a lot of practice. Still with a few simple precepts, even a geek with limited linguist ability can make his or her point more effectively.

Three guidelines:
  1. Give specific examples
  2. Only use terms that are well understood by your readers
  3. Use bullet points and lists wherever possible, or at least introduce your points with terms such as first, second and third.
I will try to keep all three in mind before my next post or technical comment on a Pogue column.